Wednesday, March 18, 2009

Mothering ceased

We had group counseling yesterday; S, hubs and me. S said lots of things that all came around to: I'm trying to change him and I won't let him do what he wants.
Which is true.
Because he wants to do nothing. Maybe not nothing: He wants to stay up all night and sleep all day and party and graffiti up other people's property and then sleep all day and wake up at night to do it again.
He said he didn't get why we care so much. What's it to you what I do? Why can't you leave me alone? He sounds and acts like he did when he was sixteen.
But he's 20, almost 21.
After he announced to us that his plan is to wait until May 15, the date we gave him to move out, to worry about finding a job or a place I said: Thank you, son. I am free to say to you that you are leaving today. I am not living with you one more day.
My mothering for him, ceased. It was that easy.
And that hard.


He Knows My Name said...

Some things are hard, and some things are easy and I see your point exactly this one is both. What is with this generation? You know my issues. Same but different. Still wish they would just grow up but they just don't seem to even know how.

nancygrayce said...

You are so not alone in this battle! There are many of us mama's who have had to give up mothering our "adult" children. I really can't even talk to mine anymore. Grow up is what I always think too, but when, how? Only God!