Friday, October 3, 2008

Going down to NC and visit daddy in the hospital in Greenville. He had a double by-pass on Wednesday after a mild heart attack on Saturday night. Of course, he waited until late Sunday afternoon to tell his wife that he thought something had "gone wrong" the night before. He's stubborn about going to the doctor; I've inherited some of his fears so even though he frustrates me about it, I understand. For now, the doctors say he's recovering well.
L doesn't want to go with us. She's going to miss seeing her friends. I believe this is a choice she has to make herself and so she told me she was going to spend the night with her friend while we were gone. I told her I was disappointed. Grandpa is family and is facing the end of his days. We have fewer and fewer times with him but ultimately, she has to live with her decision.
S, who is without a job and has the time to come with us, can't because his girlfriend won't drive herself into DC to her job and the train doesn't run on the weekend and her parents are out of town so he has to drive her. J hasn't been able to find time to call him. SK is still young enough to do as we say.
All of it makes me wonder what my grandchildren will feel about visiting me when I'm sick, or well for that matter. I don't want to be a parent that stops investing in my family as they grow up and into their own lives. I pray I can be a blessing to my grandchildren and someone they want to be with.

4 comments:

Susan said...

Kathy. I hope our dad is on the mend.

I have to confess that I would have made my girl go. I'd like to think she would want to go...but I could be dillusional!

Thinking about you and your family. Praying for you right now...

"Just Me - NC Beth" said...

I hope your dad will pull through this...I can relate to stubbornness!

About the kids...yours are much younger than mine, yet I too struggle with them wanting to visit their grandmothers (both granddads long gone to heaven). My mother was in the hospital for a few days in early June, then to Rehab to regain her strength and then on to my sister's home about 45 minutes from us. My youngest daughter (who is 34) has yet to go and visit my mother..now she will tell you real quick she loves her, but for whatever reason she can't seem to find time to visit her. I too desire a relationship with my 5grandchildren that they will want to be with me and visit me, especially when I'm old and not as active as I am now!

Blessings!

~Beth

Greg C said...

Amen to that. I have had the same feelings and have wondered if my grandchildren will look up to me and want to visit.

Susan said...

Hey there. Checking in...how's your dad?
S