My daughter's boyfriend's dad died this week. He had pancreatic cancer.
His sickness began at the same tender time they began to date and it's dark presence has been between them the year and a half they've been together. She has born up under her boyfriend's inability to include her in his family. He has kept her at a distance from them, even as he has jumped into ours. We are even further out of the circle, so much so that our presence at their home now would be intrusive.
It is so painful to be on the periphery of such a great loss; to care and to pray and to hope and to grieve with someone from a distance.